Hello and Goodbye, Max

I have gone back and forth about doing this but I decided to do it for two reasons.  First, you are all my true friends, not the fake internet kind.  And second, there is someone that I want you to meet.

In February, Mrs. Rosetta and I went through the in vitro fertilization process to get pregnant.  That whole process is a story for a different day but we learned in late February that, on our very first try, Mrs. Rosetta was pregnant which was a total blessing.

The first couple of months were unbelievably difficult as Mrs. Rosetta had some major problems from the drugs that go along with in vitro and we had a number of emergency room visits and a couple of week-long stays in the hospital.

But once we got out of that first trimester, she was a champ.  We found out a few months later that we were having a little boy and we could not have been happier.  We had picked a couple of names but didn’t want to choose until we saw him in the delivery room.  Since he didn’t have a name yet, I called him LeBron in an effort to irritate Mrs. Rosetta which ended up not working.  So we both called him baby LeBron.

I was a 10-pound baby and Mrs. Rosetta was a 9-pounder so we knew we were going to have a big enchilada.  And over the months he grew and kicked the crap out of his momma’s belly and all was good.

I don’t know why I never announced it on here but after the first trimester I guess I just didn’t want to jinx it.  Because of the early difficulties, we got to have ultrasounds every month and check on the progress of our little man.  It was always awesome to see him and hear his heartbeat.  I can’t tell you how fun that was.

He was always a very active boy which meant we got to feel lots of kicking and punching.  It was funny because I think he would sleep during the day and then do kung fu fighting at night, much to the chagrin of his momma.

Last Tuesday, my wife went in for her 32 week ultrasound and our little guy was getting himself in the right position to be born and all was great.  It was actually the best ultrasound we had ever had.

That night she wasn’t feeling him kick but we chalked it up to him sleeping since he was going through a big growth phase.  When she didn’t feel him moving around Wednesday morning, we both thought that deserved a visit to the doctor.  We were in the middle of our audit so I stayed and worked with the auditor.

An hour or two later, I got the worst phone call that I will ever receive in my life.  My wife was bawling and told me to come to the doctor’s office now.  I don’t remember much about that 15 minute drive other than I said “Please God” a million times.  When I walked into our doctor’s office she told me that our beautiful baby had died.

The last four days, we’ve been in the hospital delivering our little boy.  Mrs. Rosetta had a C-section yesterday and she’s doing well.  We were afraid that we would never learn what happened, which is the case 90% of the time this happens.  One blessing is that we know.  Our little guy had gotten himself tangled in the cord.

So anyway, that’s where I’ve been.  I didn’t only want to tell you all this so you would know why I dropped off the face of the earth, I wanted to tell you all this because we need all the prayers that you can spare.  And I know you are all good like that.

St. John’s hospital here is one of the best in the country and what they have done for us is beyond explanation.  It has been wonderful.  This makes me sick to my stomach to say but they keep our little baby in the morgue and, for the first couple of days, when we want to spend time with him, they put him in the cutest little onesies that you’ve ever seen and bring him to our room so we can hold him.

Today was the best.  They brought him to us all swaddled up and in a Moses basket.  I’m sorry if this sounds morbid but to see our little guy makes the two of us the happiest people on earth.  He has his momma’s nose, lips and chin and he has my hands and feet which are huge.  His little fingers and toes are long and so damn cute, I can hardly stand it.

There are moments of indescribable joy but I cry a lot.  Mostly because I think of all the things I won’t have the chance to do with him.  I went to the grocery store a few hours ago and it made me so sad because I will never get to go shopping with him and have him sit in the shopping cart while I push him around.  That’s one of those things that makes me cry.

Something that I did to help me deal with this was to write him a letter and tell him how much I love him.  If you care to read that, here it is.

________________________________________________________________________________________

September 26, 2009

Dear Max,

Today is the day that you were born and today was the first time that your mother and I ever laid eyes on you and you are beautiful.   Just beautiful.

I can’t describe the feelings that we had when we first looked at you.  You were so sweet and perfect.  A perfect little man.  I want you to know how proud I am of you.  You went through so much to come into our lives and you were so strong.  Even when you were a little pea, you were so strong.

You mom had some really hard times early on and her body went through hell but you hung on and stayed strong in her belly.  I know it was our love for you and your love for us that did it.  That’s how much we love each other.

I don’t know why God wanted to take you so early but I suspect it was because you are such a good boy.  Your mother and I are going to struggle with that question for the rest of our lives but that’s okay because she and I love each other and you so much.  There is a saying that goes “I would rather have loved and lost than to have never loved at all” and that’s how we feel; we would have rather loved you and lost you than to have never known you or never loved you at all.  That’s how special you are.

It’s hard for us because we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with you.  But you know that.  Perhaps we needed our own special angel and that’s what you are and that’s why you’re in heaven watching over us.

We named you Maximus Nathaniel because you are so strong, you deserved a strong name.  Your mom and I knew we liked the names Maximus and Nathaniel and that was why we chose that as your name.  At least that was why we thought we named you that.  It wasn’t until a day or two later that we found out the real reason that we named you Maximus Nathaniel.  I looked the names up and “Maximus” means “the greatest” and “Nathaniel” means “gift of God”.  And you are, without question, the greatest gift from God that I’ve ever received.

Speaking of strong, let me tell you about your mother.  She is the strongest, most wonderful, most beautiful, most loving person that I have ever known in my entire life.  She was even strong for both of us when I was scared.  She went through indescribable pain and some very hard times for you but she wanted to do that because she loves you more than anything in the world.  She practically willed you into existence and for that, I will be forever grateful.

We only get to spend another few days with you while your mother is in the hospital and those days we will cherish forever so we plan to make the most of them.  When we get to hold you and kiss your sweet little hairy head…it is pure joy unlike any I’ve ever known.  You are the most precious thing I’ve ever touched.

Now let me tell you something, Max, about how special and how strong you are and how much I love you.  Your daddy doesn’t handle loss very well.  I think I’m strong with some things but when I lose something dear to me, I’m not very strong.  I think that’s one thing that scared me about being a daddy.  How could I ever love something as much as I love you and survive if I ever lost you?  Well son, let me tell you how.  It’s because you are the most wonderful thing that I’ve ever known in my life and even though I only knew you for a short time, you made me the happiest man on earth.

I don’t look forward to having to say goodbye to you for the last time.  That is going to be the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life.  I don’t want to ever leave you.  We want to have you with us for the rest of time but we know we won’t be able to do that.  The only thing that makes that bearable is that you will always be with us in our hearts.  And we know that you are our special angel and that you will always be looking over us.

When I leave the hospital, the world seems empty now.  I only knew you in your momma’s belly (which you loved to kick…a lot) but you and I had some good conversations and we even got to listen to some fun music together.  But now that you’re gone, even though the world lost just one little man, it seems terribly depopulated.

I love you very much, Max, and I always will.  You have blessed my life and my heart and for that I will be forever grateful.

Thank you for being my wonderful son.

Maximus Nathaniel was born on September 26th.  He weighed 4 pounds, 13 ounces and was 19 inches long.  He has the most beautiful head of the softest black hair that you’ve ever seen in your entire life.

Thank you all for your prayers.

249 Comments

  1. Wow Buddy,
    you Max and Mrs are in my prayers

  2. God Bless you and Mrs. Rosetta. I am profoundly sorry for your loss my friend.

  3. Rosetta – I’m so, so sorry. Prayers to you and your family.

  4. I am so sorry. I can’t even express …

  5. my deepest sympathies to you and the Mrs. You all are in my prayers.

  6. I’m so sorry for your loss. There are no words that can express, well, anything about something like this. All my love is going out to you, your wife, and your entire family.

  7. Rosie I am bawling my eyes out. God Bless you, and comfort you and your family in your time of need. Know this that the innocent are cradled in his arms. Max is there. Now. Free.

  8. Oh God, Oh God, Oh God.

    My wife miscarried our first child back in ’88. So I know a little of how you are feeling. And it’s indescribably terrible. But we miscarried at about 2-3 months as opposed to full term, so we hadn’t gotten quite as much of an opportunity to get attached. But even in that two to three months I was very surprised to find that I’d already started making plans for my new child that would have to be put on hold. Until the miscarriage, I didn’t even think I was emotionally involved with the new baby yet. But I was. After nine months, and all those ultrasounds and potential names, I know you had already made a huge place in your home and your heart for Max that will now be empty forever. I don’t really know you and chances are will never actually meet you, but I grieve for you and especially for your wife. You’ll be in our prayers. And God will give you chiildren some day to complete what you started.

  9. Rosetta, my deepest sympathies to you and Mrs. Rosetta.

  10. Oh, sweetie, my heart’s breaking for you and Mrs. R.

    I wish I could hug you all.

  11. I’m in the same boat as Vmax. I’m crying and praying.

    You and Mrs. Rosetta have my utmost sympathies.

    May the peace of Our Lord be upon you and yours.

  12. I am heartbroken for you both. I love you, and I am praying for you.

    with love and deepest sympthy

    Dave

  13. I am so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Know that you will see Max again.

  14. ….

  15. Words. Fail.

    Rosie, you and Mrs. Rosetta are in our prayers.

  16. I will never admit this again without the administration of sodium pentothol but I love you people and your thoughts and prayers mean a tremendous amount to us.

    Thank you.

  17. God only takes the most special. There will be days you will not believe this, but it is so very true. My prayers are with you two.

  18. Oh Jesus. I can’t tell you how sorry I am to read this. You and your wife are in my thoughts. May you both find peace.

  19. I love you, and I haven’t even met the both of you. My heart is broken for you and your precious beautiful boy.

    May love and family keep you and comfort you.

  20. Rosetta,
    My condolences to you and your wife on the loss you’ve suffered. May God speed Max to His side, and may He grace you and your wife with the strength and comfort that you need.

  21. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

  22. I am so so so so sorry.

  23. Rosetta, you and the Mrs. are in my prayers,

  24. I am so very sorry to hear that. Bless you friends.

  25. Rosetta,

    God finds the best people to father and care for his most precious children, but sometimes He misses them so much, He calls them back.

    My prayers are with both of you.

  26. Well damn, Rosetta. I’m so sorry. Of course you and your wife and your son are in my prayers. Bless you.

  27. Words fail, but thoughts and prayers will abide.

  28. Sorry man. You, Mrs. Rosetta, and Max are in my prayers.

    My wife found this when she had her miscarriage, and found solace in it.
    ” In this time of loss I call upon my spirit within to guide me to my strength so that I may find peace and completion.

    I will use this strength to demand of myself and others my need to grieve completely, for this will be my first step to healing.

    During my time of grief I will seek guidance not only from my inner spirit but from loving persons who may offer wisdom and comfort.

    I need to understand that the soul as well as the physical body needs healing and to pay attentio to this. I will learn to accept that the soul may never heal completely.

    I will learn to live not in fear and once again see beauty in my world and purpose in my existence.

    In spite of my new knowledge that things happen that cannot be controlled, I must call upon the places within me that tell me I do have control over much of my life and use this control to aid my healing.

    Let me recognize the gift in my ability to conceive and carry life however briefly.

    Let me take joy in my ability to love so deeply and desire to nurture a soul unbeknownst to me.

    Let me find healing in the belief that this oul knew my love for it and that that love helped it to pass to another place.

    Let me honor this short life not only with my love but in finding meaning in its existence.

    Let me recognize this meaning in not only my ability to survive, but in my fullest appreciation of all the moments motherhood will bring me, along with my deeper compassion and sisterhood to other women who’ve experienced loss.

    Let a part of this soul be reflected in the spirit of my future children, born or adopted, so that I may know it through them.

    I will listen to and trust the place in my deepest heart that tells me I will once again be reunited with this soul and will fulfill the need to hold it in my arms.

    I will help myself to feel comfort in the knowledge that there is a star in heaven that belongs to me. “

  29. Eddie, that was beautiful.

  30. SHe also found this. It mostly relates to aborted children, but also applies to miscarried children
    http://www.osjoseph.org/osj/patron-unborn.php

  31. I’m stunned and so very sorry for your loss. I have to admit that I couldn’t get through the letter, even after a second try. Take care of each other and please let us know if there’s anything we can do.

  32. Rosetta,

    Dear Brother, I am so distraught I can barely type. I will be praying and my husband and daughter’s will be praying for the Rosetta Family. Your tender heart toward children is one of the things I love most about you. Little Max, how precious.

    Sincerely and with love,

    Mare

  33. I’m so sorry rosetta. It hurts. It sucks. Only time makes it less painful, but it’s always there.
    I’m so glad Mrs. Rosetta has someone understanding and sympathetic by her side, it’s horrific to go through it by yourself.

    I’m truly sorry for your loss.

  34. Oh, my dear, Rosetta, Mrs. Rosetta, and baby Maximus…I am so sorry for your heartbreak.

    Kiss him and hug him extra for all of his internet aunties and uncles.

    I will be praying for your family. God bless you and your little angel baby.

  35. Rosie, Max is so blessed to have such wonderful loving people as his parents. I am so profoundly sorry for your loss. I am praying for you both and if you need anything please do not hesitate to ask. I love you.

  36. Rosetta, No way could I know your pain and anguish, but know that my heart goes out to you and your beautiful wife. The courage you both are demonstrating is an awesome testament to us. You all are in my prayers, buddy!

    I ache for you both. Love and Hugs, Sweetie. Cath

  37. You have my heartfelt condolences

  38. Rosetta, Mrs. Rosetta, and Max א״ה,

    all I can say is I that I am profoundly sorry, and my love and prayers are with you all.

  39. My deepest sympathies and prayers for your family –

  40. I’m an organized person, so I will list my thoughts.

    1. PA, thanks for calling to tip off Cathy about this thread. You are a sweetheart. Wiser kinda suggested to me that something was going on when he asked me to do the BBF post, but I had no idea it was something this serious.

    2. Rosetta, I am literally crying about this. I happen to be a baby that slipped through my mother’s multiple miscarriages, all of which were very tough on them.

    3. I believe that God has a purpose for every life, including Max. It is just not immediately apparent to us what that purpose was. Like my nephew Joel, a Downs Syndrome baby who is now deceased, but who brought joy to everyone that knew him.

    4. Regarding your prayer request — I’m on the case. And mind you, we are not talking about normal prayer. We are talking about high-voltage prayer. We are talking about a Lutheran doing it right, in the penitent posture on his knees. Perhaps you will take some small solace tonight in the fact that you put a Lutheran on his knees.

  41. …that will be 4 Lutheran knees. Not your run-of-the-mill Lutheran behavior, but for you guys, we’ll be doin’ it.

  42. Rosetta,

    You have touched so many and made all of us laugh. I hope in your grief and pain we will be able to pay you back for all you bring to us.

    Prayers of righteous people are powerful and healing. Please know that our prayers are with you and your wife.

    With love and respect…

  43. Max,

    Your Dad and Mother have lots of people in this life who love them and support them. When you get to say who your parents are, point to them and say with pride, I loved them and they loved me.

    That is all anyone could want.

  44. Prayers of righteous people are powerful and healing.

    Personally, I don’t claim to be a righteous person. I’m just Lutheran, which gives my prayers some extra zap, especially when delivered from the knees.

    I’m just trying to make my theology clear. :)

  45. My mom and dad are on the Parish Council at their church, and I just emailed them to see if they could put you in their prayer book for the upcoming week.

  46. “thanks for calling to tip off Cathy”

    We are family .

  47. I could use a group hug. I’d even stand next to TBoM.

  48. The comments from you all are something that I will cherish for all my life. They make me cry but only because I don’t know how I got to be this lucky or how I could repay your kindness.

    Thank you again and a million times thank you.

    Life is like laughing with a cracked rib. And my rib is now cracked. But I promise to laugh again soon.

  49. I have a hug for you, Mare. For everyone. But I’m still not standing next to Tbom.

  50. Michael,

    Righteousness is not measured by time in church. Nor is it measured with a scorecard of sins (boy, I would be sooo over par..). It is measured by people who believe and take comfort in asking their God for help. Skinned knees help..:)

  51. Rosie:

    Take care, man. Take care.

  52. Rosette you have touched so many lives here and we all love you and yours dearly. I will stand next to TBOM….

  53. Thank you for taking one for the team, sohos.
    ;)

  54. And thank you for the header photo.

  55. Mare,

    As many as you want..

    Rosetta,

    Is there anything we can do? I mean besides punching XBrad in the sack?

    Donations? Charity? Airmailed Lutheran casseroles?

  56. We are family.

    There’s some truth in that.

    It’s interesting how Lauraw’s concept of “fake internet friends” from six years ago has been blown away by reality. Reality being: people flying across North America just to meet each other IRL, people bonding in times of crisis like now, or when Geezer’s son when down in a helicopter crash.

    Today, Lauraw was working at shipping me some waterlily tubers. I have some of her spearmint growing in my yard right now.

    There is no denying that intertubes relationships can be real.

    Plus, I have danced with Lauraw, and I could tell that she was awesomely impressed with what a great dancer I am. Never mind that Dave and Wiserbud say I looked like a doofus. Just never mind that.

  57. A few weeks ago, my church’s pastor was arrested . A few weeks later, the Archdiocese named a new pastor. In one of his first homilies, the new Msgr. mentioned that he would be a companion to us on the journey, citing the Latin term, which means “bread that travels with us”. He also told us he could not fix the hurt, but he will walk with us along the way.

    I hope you will consider us your companions

  58. or when I had my accident…these so called fake friends did everything to make me feel better and loved.

  59. “Thank you for taking one for the team, sohos.”

    Smile.

    My daughter is pretty amazed and touched at my reaction. She’s heard so much about Rosetta and everyone else but I don’t think, until now, she understood how much of an impression (and obviously and indentation in my heart) you guys have made.

  60. It’s interesting how Lauraw’s concept of “fake internet friends” from six years ago has been blown away by reality.

    You can bet that there will be toasts to Maximus Nathaniel next weekend here in California.

  61. It is measured by people who believe and take comfort in asking their God for help. Skinned knees help..:)

    Sweetie, all kidding aside, I know that. Thanks.

    . . .

    The problem with Lutherans on their knees is that we look like the dang Catholics!

    That is hard for us.

  62. That is hard for us.

    so many jokes and just the most inappropriate time………….

  63. Rosetta, I’m soooo sorry. I know what it’s like to have a miscarriage, and mine was fairly early on, and it would have been my third, not my first, yet it was still devastating. I can only imagine what you’re going through.

    Thoughts and prayers going your way – I may even get on my knees like the Lutherans…

    Much love, and deepest sympathies to you both,

    -Deb

  64. Sorry Michael,

    Methodist…here. We want to kneel, but are afraid our baptist friends will be looking. Still reeling from the fact that today’s sermon was on the healing power of prayer. Sorry for being pedantic..

  65. Man, classic Eddiebear. A poignant comment, and a link fail.

  66. Heh. I am who I am.
    Try again
    http://www.stltoday.com/stltoday/news/stories.nsf/religion/story/239A22F79B11030B86257606000B3AF4?OpenDocument

  67. so many jokes and just the most inappropriate time………….

    Nah, not really. It’s really like an Irish wake, in my humble opinion, and that’s appropriate for The Hostages. Death = Party Time.

    Celebrate a passing into the New Jerusalem.

    That’s how I look at it.

  68. Hey! at least my link was to the correct story, and not some sort of miscreant activity.

  69. when I was in St. Louis I went to the most beautiful church. It was across from Wash U and they had some festival out on the courtyard. I loved it

  70. Catholic one?

  71. Yes Catholic

  72. Oh man, Irish wakes are the best.
    My girlfriend met her now husband when we ditched P.E. class at college and went to an Irish pub. There was a wake going on there.

    Seriously. Funny is good. It keeps us from getting sunk so low we can’t escape.

  73. Rosetta, all I can add is that when I was losing my mom in May, never before in my life had I felt the prayers of people lifting me up and keeping me going. I just hope you feel that prayers are with you, not just today, but also through the rough days ahead.

  74. I removed the silly stuff at the top of the blog, but want to thank whomsoever added that beautiful image and “Family” after H2.

  75. Hey! at least my link was to the correct story, and not some sort of miscreant activity.

    Thank you for not linking goatse on this thread. Or any thread, for that matter.

  76. I just want to know what a “commercial sex act” is?

  77. Come on guys, don’t leave me here hangin.

    Rosetta needs cheering up….. trust me, I know it’s temporary, but we need to bring teh funny for him.

  78. I will talk to you all on the other side of difficult things. Thank you again.

    Thank you for not linking goatse on this thread. Or any thread, for that matter.

    Hahahahahaha. That made me laugh. Nicely done, Cassidy.

    Please resume having fun and this thread was good for my soul.

  79. Somebody has to do it.

    “I just want to know what a “commercial sex act” is?”

    30 seconds; 60 if you’re lucky

  80. “It keeps us from getting sunk so low we can’t escape.”

    True, I keep bawling like a baby.

    Then I read Seany and I can’t stop laughing (am I losing it?).

  81. I just want to know what a “commercial sex act” is?

    I’ll show you Friday.

  82. And thank you, pajama momma, for teaching me about Angel Babies.

  83. And STFU.

  84. 30 seconds; 60 if you’re lucky

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7yl3UMO-TkE

  85. I just want to know what a “commercial sex act” is?

    See this $20 in my hand right here?

    Come on over to my house for the rest of your education.

  86. And thank you, pajama momma, for teaching me about Angel Babies.

    *cries

    I hope my babies will keep your baby company.

    And on a really, really odd note. I hope Max likes chickens because Gavin’s just passed away a bit ago, not 20 minutes ago.

    I bet my babies, your baby and gavin’s pom-pom head are chillin with God.

  87. Sosho:

    Was it ST Roch, Little Flower, Our Lady of Lourdes, or Annunziata?

  88. By the way, Rosetta, naming your son Maximus = FUCKING AWESOME!!!!!

    p.s. LeBron was a good backup.

  89. I have to hit the sack. Night folks, and G-d bless

  90. See this $20 in my hand right here?

    Make it $27 and you got yerself a deal.

    Wha?

    I have standards you know.

  91. Hey, the internet IS good for something.

    It brings people that are far away close together.

    Do you think anyone else has figured that out? Am I the only one that gets that?

  92. Our Lady of Lourdes

  93. LeBron is the worst. Rosetta is lucky that Mrs. Rosetta puts up with him. ;)

  94. Hahahahahaha. That made me laugh. Nicely done, Cassidy.

    Glad I could help, YOU FILTHY MOTHERFUCKER!!!!!

  95. Mare~ while I was trying to hea,l everyday I kept getting packages and Count was amazed saying: this is from someone else from the blog!?!?!? to this day he says Sohos’s best friends are people she blogs with.

  96. “And on a really, really odd note. I hope Max likes chickens because Gavin’s just passed away a bit ago, not 20 minutes ago.”

    hahahahahahahahaha……can you find another chicken that looks exactly like the old one so he’ll never know just like one of those tv shows? Then you find out he used a permanent marker on the chicken’s foot and he know you switched them and hates you.

  97. LeBron? Pshaw! I’m always concerned somebody’s going to use “Tittyface”.

  98. I tried that with my son Ben. He noticed and then said. Don’t be sad daddy, we’ll just eat the next one..

    That’s my right wing racist boy…

  99. Sohos, I was pretty new to the Hostages, but I remember the day Rosetta posted about your accident and I was very touched how everyone cared and worried so much about you. Then when you were thanking everyone for their gifts, I was just blown away. I don’t think I understood how close people could become at that time. I do now.

  100. “Don’t be sad daddy, we’ll just eat the next one..”

    hahahahaha…a wise boy.

  101. I talked to Patty Ann while IN the hospital not that I remember what I said but she called me

  102. I’m debating that idea right now mare. Fortunately he’s only 3, but he’s gonna know Pom-Pom head is missing. He’s the most different looking one of the bunch. Gah!

    It looked like these guys

    http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2006/2355543488_a4507b1e73.jpg?v=0

  103. just imagine when the internet is fully interactive, like a Matrix plugin. We will all meet in the Hostage love shack to pal around and have drinks. Then unplug to our real lives.. Coming soon…like in the next 10 years..

  104. “not that I remember what I said”

    I said, ‘Is this really Sohos?’
    She said ‘Mine are bigger’.
    Identity confirmed.

  105. LeBron? Pshaw! I’m always concerned somebody’s going to use “Tittyface”.

    Aw, damnit. Does that mean I can’t use that name?

  106. “I talked to Patty Ann while IN the hospital not that I remember what I said but she called me”

    I don’t know what I expected, but there are some big hearted people here. It still kind of amazes me how we live all over the place but it seems like a small community here.

  107. Cute chicks.

  108. Sean, finally something we can talk about!

  109. Right after that Mare Counts’ Dad passed away and the cards and emails we received from hostages was amazing. These are the best people I know and I love you all

  110. I can always start a poll about what to do.

    Should I, A) Go get a new one real quick and not tell him, B) Tell him the chicken ran away C) Tell him the other chickens trampled him to death because he’s so tiny, much like what will happen to you on the playground when you start kindergarten?

  111. “These are the best people I know and I love you all”

    Yeah, I know what you mean, I even like xbrad.

  112. Cute chicks.

    hahaha, yeah, but they’ll never make BBF. They’re breasts are too small.

  113. I said, ‘Is this really Sohos?’
    She said ‘Mine are bigger’.
    Identity confirmed.

    hahahahahaha I hope to God you are kidding!!!!! hahahahaha

  114. D) Tell him it crossed to the Other Side.

    *runs away*

  115. Serve him the chicken tomorrow as soup and tell him that is what happens to the weak…

  116. “Their breasts are too small”

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7yl3UMO-TkE

  117. Sean..

    HAAHAAHAAHAAAA

  118. “C) Tell him the other chickens trampled him to death because he’s so tiny, much like what will happen to you on the playground when you start kindergarten?”

    HA! That will make him look forward to formal education.

  119. oh goodness I feel the need to hug gavin…I hate it Mom…We STILL say that around here

  120. E) tell him he got moved up to the big leagues and lives on a real farm now.

  121. “Serve him the chicken tomorrow as soup and tell him that is what happens to the weak…”

    hahahahahahaha……didn’t they do that in Germany in the 30’s?

  122. j/k sohos!

  123. HAHAHAHA! Pattyann, you just LOVED using that back at me didn’t you?

  124. D) Tell him it crossed to the Other Side.

    HAHAHAH! I wish I’d thought of that.

  125. I couldn’t wait a second longer, PJ!

  126. WHEW! Patty Ann, I still blame PJM for thinking I had mean snapping turtles on the ceiling when I was on Morphine ;)

  127. I hate it Mom…We STILL say that around here

    HAHAHAHA!

  128. Have I ever told you guys that Rosetta makes me laugh?

  129. That was baked chicken..

    Am I going to Hell now?

  130. Sorry, catman. Looks like it.

  131. rosetta is hysterical. To be quite honest, rosetta was the one who helped me get over my miscarriage a few years back. That’s how he knows what “angel babies” are.

    I sought out the blogs because I needed “teh funny” and there was rosetta on ace’s.

    Laughter truly is the best medicine.

  132. I use to ask my girls when they were fussy, “do you need some attention? Do you want a hug?” The funny thing is they would say yes. Now they ask me. And of course I say, “yes!”

  133. I’m up for a hug…

  134. I was being sarcastic (meaning, I’m sure you all know that).

    “To be quite honest, rosetta was the one who helped me get over my miscarriage a few years back. That’s how he knows what “angel babies” are.”

    And that’s pretty darn great.

  135. He is the funniest man alive. In the goodie box he sent me was a book called “My Body and Me”…hahahaha and it was for a young girl like discovering herself…HYSTERICAL! like I should have paid attention to taking care of myself.

  136. I’m up for a hug copping a feel by pretending I’m hugging someone…

    edited for accuracy

  137. xbrad, please, sincerely, consider yourself hugged….from me.

  138. (((((((((HUGS XBRAD)))))))))))) Love you boy

  139. “I’m up for a hug copping a feel by pretending I’m hugging someone…”

    xbrad needs to be more subtle. haahahahahaha

  140. ** NO! PJM I will not kick him in the balls**

  141. Good gawd, why are you guys hugging that man? Do you not understand the ramifications?

    NO?!?! YOU DON’T?!?!

    me either, I just hoping one of you did

  142. Man hug… How ’bout them Bears?

  143. How ’bout them SAINTS?

  144. Kicking Rosetta in the poon is going to be hard for a while.

  145. ** NO! PJM I will not kick him in the balls**

    Ok

    *nods head

    I gotcha

    *wink wink

  146. Well I would say Falcons… But, they are not really my team.

  147. Did someone just mention The Chargers? I’m pretty sure that’s what I heard.

  148. Mare, I’m selling ‘kick Rosetta in the poon’ credits.

    If it works for AG, it should work for me.

  149. “Mare, I’m selling ‘kick Rosetta in the poon’ credits.
    If it works for AG, it should work for me.”

    See, this is why PattyAnn is a winner, she is looking for the up-side. Good girl.

  150. I’m up for a hug…

    Would you settle for a punch in the dick?

  151. I’d like to stay here, but can’t put it off any longer.
    Goodnight, friends.

  152. “Would you settle for a punch in the dick?”

    hahahahahahahaha….I love Seany too!

  153. Good night, PattyAnn…..and thanks.

  154. good night Patty Ann

  155. Thanks PA.. You’re not bad you’re just drawn that way..

  156. I’m still crying here.

  157. STFU..Brad

  158. How do you do italics?

  159. I’m still crying here.

    B-rad, you don’t to fake to us like getting kicked in the balls hurts. We all know you don’t have any balls.

  160. G’night, PA. We’ll talk about young Tittyface some other time.

  161. It ain’t my balls that hurt.

    They’re just blue.

  162. Italics are for the Elite, Catman

  163. How do you do italics?

    Like this. Duh.

  164. same here xbrad

  165. xbrad….I completely understand. We are all crying with Rosetta. It’s good to see everyone with tender hearts. This is one of those times when the internet brings people close but it’s hard to hug someone over the internet. Or just sit together and be sad. No words necessary.

  166. Buttheads…

  167. “How do you do italics?”

    They tried to teach me but I fell asleep reading the directions.

  168. catman,

    If you wanna find out about how to do html stuff like ital tags, click here.

  169. They tried to teach me but I fell asleep reading the directions.

    Yannow, for some strange reason, I think that comment was directed at me.

  170. like this?

  171. I thought that there was a button missing or something.. I sometimes get that on this laptop..

  172. ok welp, I’m going to bed too. I’ve got some chicken shopping to do tomorrow.

  173. like this?

    No. You completely fucked it up. What the hell is wrong with you?

  174. Good night, PJM. Good luck with the shopping.

  175. Nite-nite, PJM. Sleep well and dream of immortal chickens.

    THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE!!!

  176. bock bock

  177. goodnight PJM

    I too am going to bed

  178. Ohh, The Rosetta Stone commercial just came on. That’s a positive anchor.

    (as opposed to a negative anchor)

  179. Good night, Sohos…..(((((hug)))))

  180. Gnight, PJ.

  181. Goodnight, Sohos..

    {{{pinch}}}

  182. Sweet dreams, Sohos.

  183. hugs

  184. Well, I am going to try to sleep too.. Send boring thoughts Sean, you’re so good at it.

    Night..

  185. boooya

  186. Good night, Catman.

  187. I’ve got some praying to do.

    Good night, Sean.

  188. Good night to catman and mare. I gots drinking and thinking to do.

  189. Well, looks like I didn’t get here before the “healing” started.

    I didn’t know just how common miscarriages are until my friends lost twins. They dropped of the map for a month afterward dealing with the grief. A year later they welcomed a big baby boy who is off the charts on every scale the doctors have.

    I’m deeply sorry for your loss Mr./Mrs. Rosetta. There isn’t much prayers from a heathen like me will accomplish, but I’ll send them up anyway. And I may be 29 and still wet behind the ears, but I’ve seen the cosmic scales balance often enough to know that glorious days are ahead.

  190. Much love for you and your wife, Rosie.

    I am crying as I write this, and I hate to say that I am crying because this is so not about me.

    You are close to all of us and we love you.

    I don’t have the ability in this forum to say what I really want to, so please accept my dearest condolences and thanks for sharing such a personal time with us.

    Max.

    The first junior Hostage.

    God bless.

  191. Dear god bud, I’m so sorry.

    I can’t imagine. I can’t imagine. Been a while but these tears are for your little man, and for your wife and for you.

  192. Rosetta and Mrs. Rosetta I will be saying the Mourner’s Kaddish for you and your family. You have my deepest sympathizes.

  193. My condolences and prayers to you and your wife on the loss of your precious baby boy. You are so loved.

  194. I am so sorry. My deepest sympathies to you both.
    A close friend of ours went through the same thing last year with twins. She is scheduled to give birth to her new baby next week.

  195. It is not growing like a tree
    In bulk, doth make Man better be;
    Or standing long an oak, three hundred year
    To fall a log at last, dry, bald, and sere:
    A lily of a day
    Is fairer far in May,
    Although it fall and die that night-
    It was the plant and flower of the Light.
    In small proportions we just beauties see;
    And in short measures life may perfect be.
    –Ben Jonson

  196. Never mind that Dave and Wiserbud say I looked like a doofus. Just never mind that.

    I said you dance well and you look like a doofus.

    You always look like a doofus. It really doesn’t matter what you’re doing.

    Ok I’ll bet you look ridiculous dropping a duece.

  197. My most sincere condolences to you and your wife in your time of grief.

  198. Rosie, You know and I know God does does ‘things’ for a reason and we don’t know why sometimes until the blessings come. My sympathies. A stronger family will be down the road for you and Mrs R. Head up, look for the beauty in all you see. Hear Max talk to you on the wind as he watches over you and the Missus throughout your lives.And if there are any spelling mistakes. fuck you, I can’t see the keyboard.

  199. I’m so sorry. The three of you (mother, father, son) have my prayers.

  200. Summertime and the living is easy
    Fish are jumping and the cotton is high
    Oh, your Daddy’s rich and your Momma’s good looking
    So hush, little baby, don’t you cry

    One of these mornings, you’re gonna rise up singing
    Then you’ll spread your wings and you’ll take the sky
    But till that morning there’s nothing can harm you
    With Daddy and Mommy standing by

    One of these mornings, you’re gonna rise up singing
    Then you’ll spread your wings and you’ll take the sky
    But till that morning there’s nothing can harm you
    With Daddy and Mommy standing by

    One of these mornings, you’re gonna rise up singing
    Then you’ll spread your wings and you’ll take the sky
    But till that morning there’s nothing can harm you
    With Daddy and Mommy standing by

  201. Beautiful choice, Laura.

  202. Thanks Laura. I’ll be humming that one all day.

    Take care, Rosie. Take care, Mrs. R.

  203. God bless all of you. You are in our prayers.

  204. Rosetta,

    I’m sorry I didn’t check in again yesterday to see this.

    There is a love that I think only parents feel. It isn’t like finding a soul mate, and the loss that can come from it is more wrenching than ‘losing a part of yourself” when your mate dies, and at least from a father’s perspective, it is something that you can never understand until that moment when the little bundle is put into your arms, and in that second, you just know.

    Your words tell us that you had that moment, and the circumstance of such searing pain coming with such blinding joy and your being able to share any of it with us so soon is a wonderful testimony to your shoulders being as wide as your heart, emotionally speaking.

    I cannot begin to imagine what you and your wife are feeling at this time. I can only offer my condolences and prayers for you both.

    Dear Father In Heaven,

    Even as you welcome Max in to your eternal embrace, we humbly request not your grace and strength, which are there whether we ask for them or not, but that you touch our brother and sister’s hearts so that they may be accutely aware of your strength and grace, that they may take refuge in your touch, that they can be unashamed in the tide of emotion that you have designed in each of us, as they turn to you, and let you carry them in the moments when they find themselves unable to carry on by their own will alone. You are the author of knowledge, and the Prince of Peace, and we pray that you would grant them full measure of both, and rejoice at Max joining you, even as they sorrow over their loss of his company here on Earth.

    This we ask in your name, because in your name, all things are possible.

    Amen.

  205. Man, rosettta, I am really sorry for your loss.

    Really sorry.

  206. Sorry to post late on this, but I feel like someone just punched me in the gut, learning about this. Amazing how close you can feel to someone you’ve only read about on a computer. Never talked to, never replied in a thread to, but feels like someone very close to me is gone.

    I’m lucky to be here, myself, so I’m especially horrified that this happened to you, with all the effort that you and your lovely wife put into this effort. I hope God blesses you in some way, as this is a terrible burden to put on someone. I’ll be saying a little something to the Big Guy upstairs on your behalf. Surely I’ll get a sympathetic ear, because I don’t ask for much.

    Prayers and good wishes to you and yours, Rosetta the Daddy.

  207. http://tinyurl.com/y8t9pcc

  208. Oh my God, Rosetta. I am so sorry for you and your wife.

  209. Rosetta, I am so sorry for your loss. Michael was right earlier when he said that there is nothing fake about the friendships, you have a whole lot of family right here.

  210. No words can describe the terrible sorrow that is the loss of an unborn child. You and Mrs. Rosetta have my deepest heartfelt sympathy.

  211. Rosetta- I’m sorry and you all are in my prayers.

  212. I wish I could be there just to sit with you and pray with you. I know you will miss Max like crazy but take comfort in the knowledge that there is an extra specal place in heaven for him until you meet again.

  213. Mr. and Mrs. Rosetta – I’m so very sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences, and know that I will remember your family in prayer.

    (Long-time lurker, first-time poater.)

  214. I’m so, so sorry Rosetta. This post made me cry. I have some friends that lost their daughter after only 24 hours, but like you, as painful as it was, they’re forever grateful for that one day with their little angel.

    God bless you guys.

  215. Jesus, Rosetta. That was beautiful. I hate the fact that you had to write it.

    We have a lot in common. We had to go through in vitro as well, and Moses was born at about 34 weeks, pretty close to Max’s gestational period. I personalized a lot of your letter, because I almost went through the same thing 18 months ago.

    We’ll all keep you in our prayers, and I know God will help take the pain away from your memories as time goes on. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or support from any of us. You’re more than a bunch of words on my computer screen, and I know the rest of the people here feel the same way that I do.

  216. Rosetta,

    Words failed me earlier. I am heartbroken for you and your lovely wife. As I was reading your post, the lump in my throat grew and I began to tear up. As I type this, the lump and the tears return. It is important to remember how precious life is ,eventhough sometimes fleeting, and what is truly important in our lives. Thank you for considering us your real friends and sharing this with us. I hope you find comfort in the love you had for Max, and the love your friends and family have for you.

  217. Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. Especially for those that de-lurked or meandered over from Ace to share your condolences. That means a tremendous amount to me.

    Today was a rough day. I think it’s because we know that tomorrow is our last day in the hospital and the last day we can hold our angel. So tomorrow is going to be another rough day.

    Hey by the way, have I told you how awesome my boy is?

  218. have I told you how awesome my boy is?

    The awesomest!

    And know that while tomorrow may be the last day you get to touch your sweet angel, he will always be with you, a part of you.

    God Bless.

  219. “Hey by the way, have I told you how awesome my boy is?”

    I’d love to hear it anytime, buddy.

  220. L to R

    Pupster, Rosetta

    http://tinyurl.com/ybhz8nz

    Lean on me, brother.

    http://tinyurl.com/692j92

  221. Me too.

  222. Oh hon, I’m so sorry.

  223. This song came to mind when I was thinking about you and your wife, Rosetta:

  224. I’m so sorry, Rosetta. I never know what to say at times like this. So instead of awkward words, here is an awkward one-arm shoulder hug with minimal torso contact, all the way from Texas.

    Aw, hell, this is a time of mourning. You can have a hug with full-body contact.

  225. “I’m sorry” seems so little to say.
    Godspeed little Max you are an angel.

  226. Whenever I have something nice to say, I am going to say it here. Forever.

  227. Just heard, Rosetta. I’m very sorry.

  228. Prayers for Rosetta and family on this very difficult day.

  229. You are all in our thoughts today.

  230. Amen, PattyAnn.

  231. I don’t remember if I’ve thanked everyone here today or not but thank you. The love and compassion that emanates from you all is stunning and wonderful and so very much appreciated.

    We are going to have a celebration of Max’s life this weekend and I am going to include the outpouring of support from you all in that. It’s been wonderful.

    And would the person that put up the header picture please forward that to me or send me a link? It has grown to be very special to me.

    By the way, have I told you how awesome my son is?

  232. I love to hear you tell us how awesome he is.

  233. Rosie – All of our love and prayers are with you, Mrs. Rosie and Max. May God bless you and your entire family.

    You know where to reach me if you need anything.

  234. “By the way, have I told you how awesome my son is?”

    All the details are great.

    I’m still just loving his name, Maximus Nathaniel. How perfect is that?

    Being a parent is the best, isn’t it Rosetta?

  235. I am so, so, so sorry to hear this. I have tears streaming down and I can’t think of anything to say to convey how sorry I am for the both of you and that I will pray for you both.

  236. I am just so overwhelmed by all of your love, kindness and support. I can feel your prayers and they are like a warm blanket to comfort me. You are so important to my sweet Mr. Rosetta and it warms my heart to know that you are there for him in such a difficult time. Thank you again for your magical words and please know that you will never be fake internet friends to us.

  237. ^Mrs R:

    G-d bless you all. Please know that you and your family will always be in our prayers.

  238. Mrs. R, I’m sure most of us don’t know where to start even thinking of something to say to you. Our hearts are heavy for you.
    Thank you for taking time now to come talk to us.

  239. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

  240. You’ve got a wonderful hubby, Mrs, R. And you have the love of all of us here.

  241. Kind regards Mrs. Rosetta.

    Dave

  242. Mrs. R,

    While we are at times unremittingly insulting to each other, this is a community that is a family. We laugh together, we rag on each other, we fight together, and in this case, we all cried together. Rosetta is a member of this family, and we thank you for allowing him to become our brother. Being here for him was never a question, and I think I can safely speak for all Hostages, Detainees, and Captives when I say we’re here for you too. Collectively, individually, or just in prayer.

    Welcome Sister!

  243. Still thinking about the Rosetta family and praying too.

  244. Mare, me, too. Just didn’t know what to say. BiW said what I was feeling perfectly.

  245. Still thinking about you guys. It’s Saturday. Maximus Nathaniel will be celebrated today.

    Babies are the best part of us.

  246. Because it belongs here rather than in the BBF thread.

    I found this today and am sending it to Rosie:

    “I said a prayer of sympathy to the good Lord up above,
    To ask Him to console you and comfort you with love.
    I prayed for help to understand the wisdom of His ways,
    To trust that life is measured by love and not by days
    I prayed He’d hold your loved one in the hollow of His hand,
    Filled with perfect peace and joy according to His plan.
    Until that promised day when both of you will be
    Together in His warm embrace throughout eternity.”

    emphasis mine.

  247. “To trust that life is measured by love and not by days”

    I really believe that. I also believe being a parent is measured that way too.

  248. I wanted to post this for you. I wasn’t sure where to do it.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x0dMBqtGtOU

  249. Congratulations on becoming a big brother, sweet little one.


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